"1. If you're going to have chemotherapy, diarrhoea is likely to be a side effect. Pregnant mums get Bounty Baby Bags, so my sister created a bespoke 'shit kit' for me. Sadly that was closing the gate after the horse had bolted, as my bowels had already let me down when in London for a meeting.
2. Many women will experience extreme pain in their arms/underarms when trying to lift or move things post operation No, it's not the operation causing the discomfort, it's cording, and you have to 'ping it off' to stop the pain. What's cording? Dead lymphatic vessel. What's pinging off? A peculiar physical activity that looks ridiculous but delivers instant pain relief!
3. The thought of losing your hair is almost as bad as knowing you've got cancer, but no one actually describes how it really happens. I was in a three hour meeting with a client when I started to moult, so I had to keep very still to avoid further embarrassment. When I went back to the car, I had to get the vacuum cleaner out. The hair went, but so too did the finger and toe nails. Never knew that was going to happen.
4. Apart from losing your dignity, hair and things, you lose your taste buds too. I love crisp, dry white wine, but I could only manage Piat D'Or or anything semi-sweet. I chain drink tea, but it tasted of metal until weeks after chemo had stopped. Then there was the accompanying and painful mouth and throat ulcers which made me sound like Don Corleone with a lisp.
5. Reflexology is fantastic - well anything involving having your toes fiddled with for an hour has got to be good. But it's excellent in helping you and your body handle chemotherapy, yet when I wanted to book sessions I met with opposition from reflexologists who said it would counteract the effects of the drugs. Complete rubbish of course, but some women would have been discouraged from getting this totally relevant treatment.
6. I had chemotherapy at home. This was brilliant for me and the children; they could see me 'plumbed in' and that the process wasn't scary. Of course I had private medical insurance, however this service is increasingly available on the NHS too, but not every hospital is aware of this, or wants to offer it. Patients may not be routinely offered this option - they need to ask! (Not sure where Spain/Gibraltar stand on chemo at home.)"
Kindest regards
Lesley Nuttall